Sister Wives’ Kody Brown could be a better man. While he can’t fix his family, he can fix himself. If he does, his life might be more fulfilling.
It’s time for Kody Brown to change for the better after viewers of Sister Wives season 18 saw him disclaim all blame for the issues in the Brown family. He is rigid in his ways, though. Kody might lessen some of the harm he has caused over the years if he made an effort to reform. Even though he can’t solve every problem, advancement is always possible. He has severely injured Meri, Janelle, and Christine Brown, therefore he must accept responsibility. It will be harder the longer he waits. Since there are kids involved, Kody’s interactions with his ex-girlfriends are crucial.
Janelle has been struggling so much in Sister Wives season 18, and Kody is to blame. Her remarks in the most recent episode were tragic. I do miss Kody, she said. We have the best of pals. In my bed, I miss him, Janelle continued. He is missed in my home. He is missed. After divorcing, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin made the decision to “consciously uncouple.” Although their separation plan was ridiculed, it had a noble quality. They made an effort to stay away from the chaos that Janelle and Kody are going through. Kody might not have the means to “consciously uncouple” from Janelle, though. Kody is a man who, if any man, needs to change.
8. Kody Should Apologize For Favoring Robyn
Kody keeps making excuses for why his polygamous family’s falling to pieces, but the reason is crystal clear. Does someone need to write it in the sky before the patriarch really understands? The reason is Robyn. Like a witch from MacBeth, she cooks up a cauldron filled with black magic. Her witches’ brew is potent, but she doesn’t need lizard’s tails and eye of newt to get results. Her potion has all the necessary ingredients, including salty Sobbin’ Robyn tears, kooky magical thinking, and a twist of passive aggression. Delicious!
While Robyn’s the puppetmaster, Kody gives her free rein. To repay him for that, she backs him up on everything. This is where it gets toxic. By enabling Kody to neglect the other wives for years, and telling him that he was making the right decisions, she’s helped to destroy the plural marriage that she claimed to value. In fact, she separated Kody from his older sons at Christmas, in a power move that was shady to say the least.
This duo has wreaked havoc. Janelle’s life’s in tatters, and she acts like she doesn’t know where her next meal’s coming from. She may be in financial distress because of Coyote Pass. Of course, she puts that on Kody and Robyn. They live like royalty while she goes without. Meri’s been going it alone for eons, and feels excommunicated from the family. Christine isn’t so unhappy, but she’s angry. Every non-Robyn wife is seething. Meanwhile, Kody can’t bring himself to say, “I’m sorry.”
He did manage to wring a pseudo-apology out of himself in the last episode. Kody said, “I’m embarrassed by my behavior, but I’m also realizing that you don’t have a safe place, a safe way to talk to me.” Then, he referenced the rage that’s poisoning the atmosphere in season 18. He added, “I am morphing or transmuting grief into anger.”
While this was better than nothing, and showed a pale glimmer of self-awareness, telling a wife of 30 years that she’s not “safe” with him was just sad. He needs to be much more contrite. He’s still dodging responsibility. Sister Wives’ Janelle Brown actually loves this man! It’s hard to believe, but it’s true. Imagine how much it must hurt her when he says that she’s not “safe” with him. It’s like he’s muzzling her with his remarks, and trying to stem the flood of emotional words.
7. Kody Should Mend Fences With Paedon Brown
The 25-year-old Paedon Brown isn’t afraid to show his contempt for his renowned father and Kody’s meddling wife, Robyn. He actually possesses a healthy dose of Kody’s renowned bravado. In season 18, Paedon was depicted on film making fun of Kody and Robyn’s immune systems and siding with Christine. He openly declares his support for Christine’s choice to abandon Kody in the cold.
Paedon hides his hurt by making jokes. He’s been let down repeatedly by Kody. After hearing his father’s constant babbling about being extra cautious during the COVID-19 pandemic, he appears to believe that his father is a con artist because he “outed” Kody as an anti-vaxxer. However, there is no doubt that the ill will continues.
Kody should be Paedon’s safety net, but he isn’t. He’s not Paedon’s hero. A caring father’s such a comforting thing. A loving dad will give a child strength, rather than throwing them off balance. A great father will always be there. By spending more time with Robyn’s children, Kody has made a grave mistake. Paedon’s not on speaking terms with his father, who should be his rock. It’s a nasty situation that Kody should try to change.
While it might be hard to become the sort of father that’s put on a pedestal and belongs there, it’s not impossible. Kody should change his habits, making his child a priority. Calls, texts, gifts, and genuine interest in his son’s life could change everything. While being a wonderful father is very hard work, and the work of a lifetime, it can be done. Other men have risen to the occasion. While Paedon might resist Kody’s efforts to connect, he could eventually soften, healing the rift that’s so wrenching for father and son.
6. Kody Should Acknowledge Emotionally Abusing Meri
Emotional abuse can exist in many forms. It can be accomplished by isolating a person, humiliating them, and trying to bring them down. Kody’s guilty of all of these things, with Robyn’s help. Meri’s the most isolated woman in the Brown family. Offscreen, she’s left Kody, but Meri still leaves cryptic posts that show her sad wistfulness over her fate. While she’s technically let go, those Instagram posts show what’s happening inside of her. She’s in her feelings.
King Kody kicked Meri out of his inner circle, degrading her in many insidious ways. Queen Robyn was still there, sitting right beside Kody at each and every family meeting. These get-togethers were like kangaroo courts, where Kody and Robyn had already made every decision. They went through the motions, trying to convince Meri and the other Brown family members that they were part of a democracy. However, it was just a game. Meri was increasingly powerless in the troubled family dynamic. The only thing she could do to change things was leave.
In the latest episode, Meri’s still worrying about Kody. She doesn’t want him to think that her Utah move means that she’s done with their plural marriage. No one should be more done than Meri. She couldn’t win Kody’s forgiveness after she got catfished, and decided to retreat. Meri wanted to move her LuLaRoe venture (Christine’s not with that company anymore) venture to Utah. Meri, who comes off as a bit weak at times, is concerned that Kody won’t support her choice. That she would care is frankly mind-boggling. When he has ever supported her emotionally? Three decades ago?
In terms of his attitude towards Meri, Kody might as well be on the moon. He’s just not there. He’s in space. That’s something he should apologize for too. While Meri’s also made mistakes, her misdeeds pale in comparison to his own.
5. Kody Should Make Amends For Missing Ysabel Brown’s Scoliosis Surgery
A father and daughter can have a very close bond. This “opposite sex” dynamic can be very effective at times. It’s more typical for women to struggle with raising daughters than it is for dads to struggle with parenting males. Kody and Ysabel Brown do not, however, share a supernatural connection. When he declined to go to her scoliosis surgery during the epidemic, he injured her. Christine was undoubtedly there at the hospital while a surgeon performed surgery on her child.
This kind of stuff’s very hard to make up for. It casts a long, dark shadow. Since Kody has 18 kids, it’s not that surprising that he’s feuded with many of his children. While he and Ysabel don’t openly argue, there’s still hurt feelings. Kody wasn’t wrong to be cautious during the pandemic, but surgery’s a big deal. Ysabel was probably frightened before her operation. That kind of anxiety’s very common. Kody being close by might have eased her fears. It’s a father’s job to make these difficult moments easier.
A good father would be there. He’d find a way. Perhaps he’d double-mask, wear gloves, and then hold his daughter’s hand while she was lying on the gurney. A great father would look beyond the risks, recognizing that his presence was all-important. It didn’t go over well when Kody missed that operation. Lots of Sister Wives fans are moms or dads. They know what’s up.
4. Kody Shouldn’t HIde His “Romantic Tension” With Robyn
Kody’s in love with Robyn. He sometimes tries to hide that, but never succeeds. Kody never quite says out loud that his love ruined their family, but it’s understood. When he said he was going to try and hide his, “romantic tension” with Robyn while he was around Meri, he was really telling a story. He was revealing a twisted attitude about reality. Kody would rather hide an obvious truth than face the music.
To be a better man, Kody needs honor, and that’s in short supply right now. It’s been missing in action for some time. A great husband and father always has honor. It’s about having values and never deviating from the high road. Instead of honoring his unloved wives and ex Christine, Kody focuses on cutting them down. Would a true gentleman do that? Kody’s no gentleman. He rips apart his own wives onscreen. He’s mockingly called them, “princesses” and worse. He referred to Janelle as the “Teflon Queen.” However, they’re good women just the same.
If he did have the honor to admit that he’s only loved Robyn since she entered his life, Kody might feel a sense of freedom. As it stands, he’s still trapped in the role that he’s been playing. It’s not hard to admit to a truth, particularly when it’s so painfully evident (and so important). Yet he cannot say the words.
If he did, it might take some pressure off. Instead of attacking the many unhappy women in his life, he could change his tactics. He could just be who he is. Those other women would accept that truth, and maybe even be healed by it. All of them intuitively understand what’s happening anyway.
3. Kody Should Stop Thinking Of Christine As The Enemy
Kody’s adversary isn’t truly Christine. All she wants to do is live her life. Christine does not desire to be Kody’s puppet. She aspires to independence and has the power to create a fulfilling future. Kody is so fearful that he is unable to comprehend this essential reality. Concerning his relationship with Robyn or anything else is far from her mind. Christine does, however, object to Kody spending too much time and energy on Robyn and their kids. She is fully aware of the type of suffering that Kody’s dishonest favoritism may cause. She has personal experience with it.
Despite her anger, Christine extended an olive branch to Kody. However, he was too suspicious to accept it. He still felt he was being played. He may have felt that Christine was laughing at him. If Kody let down his guard, he might realize that Christine’s sincere. She’s quite willing to be friends. She’s detached emotionally in season 18, and now, IRL, (SPOILER ALERT) she may be married to another man.
Kody should be friends with Christine. They have kids. Plus, they have a history. However, his friendship’s not mandatory (not by a long shot). Christine can definitely get by without it.
2. Kody Should See A Therapist
Kody has problems. The changes in his life are negatively impacting him and altering his personality. He knows something’s wrong, but doesn’t seem to be able to get himself back on track. His referenced his anger while talking with Janelle in the last episode, so he realizes that he’s carrying a lot of anger. He directs it at people who are basically innocent. Christine only left because he didn’t pay attention to her. It’s not like she didn’t give him countless chances to fix their relationship. She wanted him to fix it.
With Janelle, Kody’s also a rage-aholic. When he’s not implying that dirt never sticks to Janelle, he’s telling her that it isn’t, “safe” for her to share her innermost feelings with him. However, he feels comfortable enough to share his own anger with her. She gives him an important gift, which is the capacity to be himself. His non-Robyn wives don’t have that luxury. If they do something that he doesn’t like, he lashes out.
Talking to a therapist might help Kody to vent. He could let the professional know what’s bothering him, and maybe feel lighter, emotionally speaking, when he leaves that person’s office. Therapy would be good for Kody because he has so many blind spots. He expects his thwarted spouses to swallow his cooked-up narratives like a baby swallows Pablum. They can’t do that anymore, as too much has happened.
1. Kody Should Be Nicer To Robyn
Kody and Robyn aren’t in the best place in season 18. However, they’re still a united front, more or less.Since Kody’s chosen Robyn as his queen, he should stop torturing her with his divorce blues. Of course, some strong emotions are expected and normal. However, being with Robyn is what Kody wants. If it wasn’t, things would have been very different. He would have kept sleeping with the other wives, and he would have cared more about their problems.
Why can’t he just be happy given that he has stated off-screen that he is not interested in getting married again that Robyn wants polygamy? He must give in to the circumstance. Meri is moving to Utah, Janelle intends to flee, and Christine fled. The game is over. There will never be another Brown family the same way, but that’s okay. Everybody in the situation found the dynamic intolerable. The Sister Wives cast members may finally live their lives now. Growing pains may occur, but they’ll be worthwhile in the end. This needed to be corrected.